"HATS OFF FOR HOPE" - SARSM EVENT TO BENEFIT VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - AUG 4th @ LANDING @PPT | Community Spirit

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"HATS OFF FOR HOPE" - SARSM EVENT TO BENEFIT VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - AUG 4th @ LANDING @PPT
"HATS OFF FOR HOPE" - SARSM EVENT TO BENEFIT VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - AUG 4th @ LANDING @PPT

"Dear women of southern Maine, 

If you are like me, the headlines in the news can really create a sense of helplessness and frustration - sometimes we just don't know how to respond or what to do or how to help.

Here is a cause you can support to help the agencies that combat domestic violence.  Just show up if you can and be "heard"!  

Your support of this event is like sending a message and it will have an impact that is far-reaching and continuous."  Meredith Bradley-Bickford, USM Athletic Dept.

HATS OFF FOR HOPE * BENEFIT : SARSM August 4, 2011

Details:
HATS OFF FOR HOPE: Wear your best summer hat and sundress while enjoying the company of fabulous women, music, food and drink at the beautiful Landing at Pine Point. Experience a fashion show demonstrating the 6 stages of domestic violence. The evening will also include, give aways, local vendors, silent auction items and more! Bring your friends, family, co-workers, etc to help benefit this worthy cause. Proceeds will go directly to Family Crisis Services and Sexual Assault Response Services of Southern Maine 
5:00PM till 8:00PM SEAROSE GARDEN
TIX: SARSM & VONDA SHEPARD CONCERT $40 
SARSM EVENT ONLY $25

 

What is Domestic Violence and Abuse?

Domestic violence and abuse is a pattern of coercive behavior that is used by a person against family or household members or dating partners to gain power or control over the other party in a relationship.  This behavior may include any of the following:  physical violence, sexual abuse, emotional and psychological intimidation, verbal abuse and threats, stalking, isolation from friends and family, economic control, destruction of personal property and animal cruelty.  Domestic violence occurs between of all racial, economic, educational and religious backgrounds.  It occurs in heterosexual and same-sex relationships, between married and unmarried partners, between current and former partners and between other family and household members.

 

IN CONCERT * VONDA SHEPARD »  Check em out!!!
IN CONCERT * VONDA SHEPARD August 4, 2011

Details:
Vonda Shepard’s career has ranged in scope from early hits in the late ’80s & then as the voice of Ally McBeal, selling more than 12 million records worldwide throughout the span of the hit TV show.
Vonda sums it all up very clearly...I love the idea of making and releasing my own records exactly the way I envision them, then going on the road, getting the music out there and having a blast doing it all. Don't miss this wonderful evening with an amazing talent!

 

Myths: Why Does Battering Happen?

Out of control - The abuser is actually in control. The abuser decides who to abuse, when and where, the parts of the body to batter, and the length and severity of the episode. The abuser may remove rings or a belt as a signal, or threaten that s/he is “going to do something” and when.

Poor anger control – This feeds into the belief that battering is a crime of passion. In fact, many batterers admit to calmly planning violent incidents. Additionally, most batterers are able to control their emotions when on the job, with friends, in court, or when dealing with police.

Stress – Batterers do not experience more stress than non-batterers do. They chooseto deal with stress violently. Batterers believe they have the right to control and get their way.

Low self-esteem – Batterers do not differ from non-batterers in their level of self-esteem. The difference lies in the batterer’s belief system regarding women and children. The problem is not how batterers feel about themselves, it is the permission they give themselves to control and hurt other people.

Substance abuse causes the abuse – Getting sober and into a program does not stop the abuse or the violence. In addition, being a “recovering addict or alcoholic” may be used to sidestep responsibility for abusive behavior. Substance abuse is another way for an abuser not to be held accountable. Getting sober is just the first step in dealing with the underlying issues of power and control.

History of abuse from childhood - Many batterers were abused as children. Many were abused growing up and chose not to abuse. Statistics show that men who have witnessed their father abusing their mother are more likely to batter than those who have been physically abused themselves. Both are big risk factors.

Poor communication skills – This myth is grounded in the belief that the abuser wouldn’t abuse if their needs were met. It is a form of victim blaming. Abusers demand that their needs be met before the needs of all others. For their safety, victims learn to read subtle, non-verbal communications well. Even when victims meet the needs of abusers, they continue to abuse.

Battering is provoked or enjoyed by the victim - Battering and other abuses are degrading and humiliating. No behavior on the part of the victim ever justifies battering. No behavior on the part of the victim can change the abuser’s decision to batter.

Batterers need to learn non-violence – Batterers know non-violence. The problem is not their inability to resolve conflict non-violently, but their unwillingness to do so.

  Meredith T. Bradley-Bickford Assistant Athletic Director for Student Development Senior Woman Administrator University of Southern Maine